Some Thoughts About Introducing Newbies to E-Play/Stim
By Uncle Abdul
One of the most frequent questions I get at my demos and classes is, "What's a good way to introduce a novice to E-Play and E-Stim?" After all for many of us the cost is an important factor, and our electional funds don't permit casual experimentation. You either have to "…buy it and try it…" or just wonder. And what if you find out you don't like? That's a lot of money to find that it doesn't work for you, or that it's too much (or too little) to handle. And trying to depend on web descriptions of an E-Play/Stim experience is far less desirable than actually trying it for yourself.
How Can I Get Started? ¾ ¾ If you have a friend or buddy that has the equipment to try out, well that problem seems to be easily solved? But is it? Perhaps they haven't read JUICE¾ Electricity for Pleasure and Pain or have seen any of my workshops or demos. Perhaps they're more into intense sensations, and you're into gentler sensations (or vice versa).
Actually working with someone else's equipment and who is knowledgeable is a good way for a newbie to get introduced to E-Play/Stim. (Of course attending Unc's demos and classes or taking advantage of his private consulting services is perhaps the best way, but some people would think I'm biased.)
There is a specific sequence of steps that I suggest be used to introduce newbies to this stuff. I've used it with both men and women and with TENS Units, Violet Wands, and (in general) Subbie Swatters and Stun Guns. The basic general principles are:
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Preliminary Negotiations ¾ where I find out about the person's experience with electrical play, their desires around it, and health questions¾ especially about any heart conditions they might have. |
(Abridged from several actual encounters) Unc' So, what kind of experience have you had with electrical play?She Well, I've had someone play with me briefly with a Violet Wand, but I didn't like it. I want to try a TENS Unit, but, frankly, I'm scared of it.Unc' Have you ever been electrocuted or tortured non-consensually by electricity?She No.Unc' Do you have a heart condition?She No.Unc' Any other health concerns?She No, I'm in pretty good health.Unc' Any other limits on what we're about to do?She I'd like to experience stimulation in my genitals. It's OK if I'm nude, but I want to keep my panties on.Unc' OK, I'll do the process as we had talked about, and if you want to see what it's like to do it with your genitals, I'll let you put on the pads yourself. Our code words will be RED, YELLOW, and GREEN. Is your pubic area shaved?She Yes, I am shaved. And I agree we each understand the limits. Lets get started. |
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Process Discussion ¾ I discuss with them how I'll work with them on this introduction. |
Unc' I'm going to start 'Low' and take you through 'Baby Steps'. I'll have the controls at minimum and the unit off. Then I'll put the pads on your arm first just to show you what the sensations are like. You give me feedback as to what it feels like for you.She OK.Unc' Let me know immediately if anything feels strange or uncomfortable for you.She I certainly will. Thank you. |
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Start 'Low' ¾ At the start of the introduction process I always…
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Unc' (In her view, I show her that the controls are at a minimum setting and that the unit is turned off. Then I place two adhesive pads on her inner forearm about 6 inches apart. Finally I connect them to the TENS Unit.)Are you ready? She Yes. |
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IMPORTANT : Feedback ¾ All through the introduction process I have the person report on the intensity and sensations they are feeling. This is a most important part of the process.Each person has different responses to electrical play, and even their perceptions may change from time-to-time. Feedback should always be encouraged and used. |
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Take 'Baby Steps' ¾ Using the intensity control ONLY I slowly adjust it until the person just barely perceive a sensation. I note the control position for this level. Then I can increase the intensity in small increments asking the person their feelings at each step. Here the question, "On a scale of 1 (mild) to 10 (intense), what are you feeling?" is a useful way to get feedback and to establish a close, caring connection between me and the person.Generally I only take them up to a "5" on the scale and note the position. Now I can work with the other controls. Setting the intensity control to a feeling of "3" on the scale, I now start doing the frequency control in the same 'Baby Step' fashion¾ noting the control position at each level. AT ANY POINT IN THE PROCESS When the Person Says They're Feeling Uncomfortable, I STOP and Turn the Unit Off ¾ This is also an important part of the process. It's important to keep the Trust once established; otherwise the process will not be a pleasant one¾ for either of us. |
Unc' OK, I'm going to start with the intensity. Let me know when you first start feeling something.(I then slowly turn the intensity knob while watching the expression on her face.) She Oh! I feel something there.(Her facial expression and body language is not tense or agitated.) Unc' On a scale of 1 to 10, what does it feel like? Also what is your perception of the sensation?She It's less than a "1", and it feels like a gentle pulsing.Unc' Is it comfortable, uncomfortable?She Comfortable.Unc' OK lets increase the intensity a little bit. Let me know how it feels.(I increase the control a little bit and watch her body and facial language.) How's that? She That's about a "2". It's still comfortable, and it feels like a pulsing.(Using the same process I gradually increase the intensity control, observe responses, and ask for feedback till I get her to report that she's at a "5". Sometimes the control 'maxes out' before she gets to a "5".) Unc' OK, do you want to try the frequency control now?She Oh, yes!(Trust has been established, and there is a smile of recognition of that trust and anticipation of good things to come on her face. I set the intensity control to a "3".) Unc' OK.(I increase the frequency control slightly.) How's that feel? She Ouuu! That feels good. It's still at a "3", and it feels like a faster pulsing.Unc' OK.(I gradually increase the frequency control more.) How's that feel? (This process repeats as I 'work' the frequency control through it's entire range.) She It's still comfortable.Unc' (Turning the unit off) OK, do you want to try it on your genitals now?She Oh, yes!(Under my direction I have her place one adhesive pad on either side of her clitoris. I let her place the electrodes, and she still has her panties on.) Unc' Ready?She Yes.(Using the same technique as I had done on her forearm, I first play with the intensity controls and then the frequency controls.) . . . Unc' How's that feel?She Ouuu! That feels wonderful! It's a really pleasant buzzing sensation.(There's a smile on her face, and her body language shows me she's enjoying it very much.) Unc' Well, that's the introduction. Would you like for me to continue?She Oh yes, please do.(If she would have said "No", I would have stopped right then and there and go immediately to the aftercare portion.) |
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Play¾ If That's Been Negotiated Beforehand ¾ |
Unc' (Using the controls I run her through different sensation sequences. I keep checking her responses and verbally checking in with her. She generally likes the sensations.)She (Lot's of OUUU's and Ahhh's and smiles and delightful body language.)(As she orgasms, I gradually turn the controls down to zero. I tell her that I'm doing this, and she seems OK with this.) |
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Aftercare and Debriefing ¾ This too is an important step. After all, I've shared an intimate and personal moment with a fellow human being. They need to have an opportunity to share their thoughts and concerns and pleasures about what just happened. And they may need a hug, a blanket, a friendly ear, etc. |
Unc' How was that for you?She Oh, that was wonderful. Thank you.(We hug and she gets dressed.) Unc' Now you have an idea of what electrical play is like. Do you have any more fears about electrical play?She No, not any more.Unc' Do you have any questions about what happened?She Not at this time.Unc' If you do have any questions later, here's my e-mail address and phone number. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions or feelings.She OK, I'll do that. Thank you.(We hug again.) |
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The above was an example of the process using a TENS Unit as an example. The same process (appropriately modified) would be used if you were doing an introduction to a Violet Wand, or other devices. It also applies if you're learning solo for E-Stim purposes. REMEMBER: Responses may be different for different people, and they may be different in the same person at different times. |
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Recommendations for Equipment to Start With? ¾ ¾ I know that E-Play/Stim equipment is costly, so people usually try to get the most expensive unit they can afford. But what if you don't like it? Are you then stuck with a white elephant¾ an expensive one at that?
In the general area of TENS Units, there's a variety of equipment that you can select from: Folsom Electric, PES, Rimba, a medical TENS Unit, or even a homebuilt one. The again there are the advanced units such as ErosTek and HotBoxx. What should you start with?
I generally recommend (after suggesting that they read JUICE of course) that a newbie start with a simpler TENS Unit such as a medical unit or one of the simpler play units as opposed to one of the more advanced ones. The reason for this is that you experience directly what effect the 'Intensity', 'Frequency', and 'Pulse Width' controls have on you or your partner. Each has a different sensation and is perceived differently. These simpler units¾ especially the medical TENS unit¾ can generally be obtained at lower prices. (Sometimes you can get medical TENS Units prescribed by your own doctor.) This would be an ideal way to start.
I still use a medical TENS Unit for my basic play, even though I work with the more advanced units. For my purposes it does all that I want, and I generally combine it with other sensation play anyway.
For Violet Wand introduction there is even a way to get an inexpensive introduction here. Radio Shack and other stores sell (sometimes on sale at $50 or so) 'Lightning Balls', a plasma display toy that operates at higher voltages (but not as high as with a Violet Wand). By turning it on and placing your hand on the surface of the ball, you can get a mild 'Lightning Hands' effect. Something for you to consider.
Once you experiment with these units, you can then work up to other units.
What If I Don't Like the Experience? ¾ ¾ If you've tried electrical play equipment and find that you don't like the experience, what do you do with the equipment? If you notice on EBay.Com or on the E-Play lists, play units can be offered for sale. This is a good way for you to get some of your money back. Understand that some people may be wary on buying used equipment, so you may need to explain to the buyer why you're putting on the market and that it indeed does work. Also note that if you've bought internal electrodes, these will probably not sell. I certainly tell people not to buy used internal electrodes since cleanliness is a major concern. (If you're selling these to a friend that knows of and accepts of your health situation, then that's possible.)
SAFETY Through UNDERSTANDING ¾ ¾ What I've tried to present in this article are some thoughts about how to introduce newbies to E-Play/Stim and about cost considerations. Both can be dealt with.
If you have any further questions, please feel free to contact me.
Unc'
© by Uncle Abdul, 2001. No copies--hardcopy or electronic--may be made without expressed, written permission of the author. In the nature of a textbook the author requests comments on omissions and errors that a reader may find contained herein. The author can be contacted at UncleAbdul@gMail.com.